“Speak your truth” is good advice. Tell your story. Show due respect, of course, for others’ feelings, and for their privacy. But claim ownership over your story. People whose lives begin with severance and secrecy especially need to hear this advice, because what secrecy in adoption does is to make one’s story into contested property, where truthseeking, not to mention truth
I enjoyed reading the above First Person Truth. If someone is carrying something throughout their life that brings strong emotions, they deserve to be heard. If someone else carries a similar appendage but doesn't necessarily feel the "heaviness" of it, well, good for them. However, the level of angst regarding being adopted is not a contest, and asking others to be happy for your situation truly lacks empathy.
I enjoyed reading the above First Person Truth. If someone is carrying something throughout their life that brings strong emotions, they deserve to be heard. If someone else carries a similar appendage but doesn't necessarily feel the "heaviness" of it, well, good for them. However, the level of angst regarding being adopted is not a contest, and asking others to be happy for your situation truly lacks empathy.
Tony I adore you, but as a non-academic, I have to read your post 6-7 times to follow all your points. ☺️
“I am offering you evidence of things you might not have seen.”
Yes. This. Exactly.