I enjoyed reading the above First Person Truth. If someone is carrying something throughout their life that brings strong emotions, they deserve to be heard. If someone else carries a similar appendage but doesn't necessarily feel the "heaviness" of it, well, good for them. However, the level of angst regarding being adopted is not a contest, and asking others to be happy for your situation truly lacks empathy.
So glad to read this, because I have the same response -- and, because I'm old, I usually blame my fading mind rather than my status as a non-academic but loving reader.
I enjoyed reading the above First Person Truth. If someone is carrying something throughout their life that brings strong emotions, they deserve to be heard. If someone else carries a similar appendage but doesn't necessarily feel the "heaviness" of it, well, good for them. However, the level of angst regarding being adopted is not a contest, and asking others to be happy for your situation truly lacks empathy.
Tony I adore you, but as a non-academic, I have to read your post 6-7 times to follow all your points. ☺️
So glad to read this, because I have the same response -- and, because I'm old, I usually blame my fading mind rather than my status as a non-academic but loving reader.
“I am offering you evidence of things you might not have seen.”
Yes. This. Exactly.
I agree, the entire last paragraph resonates so deeply with me