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Virginia's avatar

"There is only me, standing in particular relationships to the particular people I care about." - This, line, Tony. THIS. LINE. This line is my entire life. I wonder what it would be like to feel part of a collective, instead of feeling close to one particular person, one at a time.

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Thank you so much for sharing, as ever. I hear and receive that the fracture caused by adoption cannot be fully healed, and see that it’s both incredibly brave and vulnerable to gather different ‘spokes’ and know that you cannot control what happens from there. It sounds like there have been precious moments and moments of salt in a lifelong wound, too? What a lot to process.

I am entirely sure that it’s poor consolation to hear that what you share shapes the thinking of others, so I don’t remotely offer this as such, but I do believe that people like you sharing like this has the power to help people dig beneath the surface narratives of adoption, so that others who walk a similar road might not need to shoulder the same level of burden of this emotional work - because the adults involved might have done the reflecting and the relationship building for them, much earlier in life. Thank you for offering your experience to us so openly.

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